My younger brother David called me yesterday. He 's a great guy, fantastic father, and a loving brother. His phone call was unusual. David is not the type to call, email, or generally communicate with the family unless some thing is seriously wrong, it's the holidays or a birthday. His family schedule doesn't allow alot of free time so when he has it he uses for himself.
That kind of selfishness is easy to tolerate. It's deserved. He and his wife work crazy long shifts and are devoted to their 2 daughters. My nieces. I just love them. David and his wife have done a great job raising my nieces. Making many sacrifices for their daughters.I'm off the track.....
David called to tell me that in 8 days he will be having a DNA test and so will a 23 year old young man, whom my brother has 99% certainty is his son. Unknown to me and most of our family, David had a 3 month affair with a woman 9 years older then he, 24 years ago. She became pregnant, denied my brother was the father, but did not put any father's name on the birth certificate. She gave birth to a boy she named Shawn, but died when the child was only 5. Shawn lived with his maternal Aunt, whom always suspected my brother was the father. She never contacted my brother, and my brother for some good reasons and some not so good never contacted the Aunt. My brother and the Aunt only lived 3 miles from each other, to this day.
Shawn will be coming home from the Air Force in 8 days and agreed to the DNA test. My brother is very excited, I hope all of this works out in a positive way. Right now I am having a difficult time wrapping my arms around this situation. I find it a little creepy that David has all ready referred to Shawn as his son, before proof positive. There is a chance that this young man is not my brother's child.
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So was he married 23 years ago? How do the possible sisters feel about it, and his wife?
I'd say if he's that sure he's the father, than he probably is.
Life has so many real life dramas. I imagine I know his reasons for not dealing with this earlier on. Lots of people and lots of feelings affected by two people's choices a long time ago. This was why I loved the book The five people you meet in heaven, by Mitch Albom. I hope he finds out his son is a fine young man and that they can have a lasting relationship - for both of their sakes, and the boy's mom, too.
gkl: no he was not married then...he got married a year and 1/2 later which ended in divorice with that wife sleeping with the best buddy...his current wife knew about the possiblity when they were dating...my nieces are only 8 and 10..they are excited
Bubbles: I hope it turns out well too....I think there was a step father involved at one time...not married to the boy's mom but a full time live in guy....he kept in touch with the boy until the guy got married and started a family of his own then disappeared...thankfully the boy lived with his aunt and uncle since he was five....I just hope this turns out well
WOW, talk about crazy.
I hope everything works out the way it should.
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