SHow me the money

IT's all about the money with G man. If he has to pay, a lecture ensues about how hard it is to make the money to pay for what ever we, he, the kids and rarely me want to purchase. No one understands how difficult it is, he is the only one, so if the item being paid for is not what he thought of, desired, wished for, or wanted for a long time then it is not worth getting.


His attitude and lectures are getting on my nerves so much that yesterday we had a big blow out. The blow out was over our trip to Europe. From the beginning of planning this trip I knew it was going to be difficult for G man to accept. He does not like to travel or take vacations. In the 34 years that I have known him we have NEVER taken a vacation together or taken one with the kids unless the time involved a business trip. NEVER a family vacation just for fun time. NEVER! Disney(3 times), Carefree Arizona (twice), Winter Park Colorado, NYC (many times), New Orleans (3 times), Chicago (many times), Dallas, Boston, Vegas (4 times), Cabo (Double G went with him). He manages to get a few extra days off to participate in the trip after the business portion concludes, but the whole time he is thinking about work, emailing or on the phone. He has won several trips to fabulous places through work only to make a deal to get the cash for the trips instead of going.

We have talked about traveling when he retires, which is still 15-20 years away. Renting a motor home and seeing the United States. He has never been to the Midwest and would like to see Yellowstone, Mount Rushmore, etc.... I'm in. I have seen those places as a kid and would love to experience them again. But after that nothing. I have talked about seeing the pyramids, kangaroos, Loch Ness, Stonehenge, Mayan Temples, Grey Friar's Bobby and lots more for years. G man has always said he is not sure about traveling outside the USA.


I have tried to talk up the places we are going to see, give him a little background and history, to which he usually walks away or changes the subject. Trying to share my excitement with him has proven to be a sore subject and is frustrating. His guy friends and business associates have all said, according to G man, the same thing as he has, why spend the money it is a waste. No return on investment, because there is no tangible investment. It's all about the money.

At the start of this plan I asked G man not to go, Jenny G and I would be fine. His answer was he couldn't, he didn't think we would be safe. Now he regrets his decision. He yelled at me last week that he has to miss 3 sales meetings and a show while we are gone. He can't leave his business, and according to G man his business associates have made that point clear. That they would never leave their business for 2 weeks, all hell would break loose and money would be lost, competitors will move in, money will be lost, the help can not make decisions while he is gone, mistakes will be made, money will be lost.

I know owning your own business is different from working for a large company. I know mistakes by employees are costly. Mistakes have happened while he is here. The competition is not going to move in while he is away anymore then they would if he was in town. It happens all the time. If G man brings his computer on the trip he will work most of the time we are away. There are always emails to answer, forms to fill out, fires to put out, questions and situations that require immediate answers. I know all this.

Jenny G asked asked him if he wanted to spend time as a family. His answer was yes, "we could do it here and not spend any money. Why do we have to spend the kind of money for this trip just to spend time together." Her reply was because "you are always working at home." He said "you enjoy the money, your car, the house and all the other benefits from my working so much, you don't understand how much time it takes......blah blah blah blah... she just walked away and said you are a miserable person working so much, you enjoy nothing." He replied "I enjoy the money. It's all about the money" "That's what you, your mother and brother don't get"

Oh I get it. SO go sleep with your money.

just a few things ....

The fire department was at my house today....cobwebs in the sensors triggered the alarm... Sam Dupra, Double G 's friend and a volunteer fireman, went through the house to make sure all was ok, then called me to let me know I needed to have the alarm company take us off line, until I clean the cobwebs from the sensors, so the fire company does not keep getting false alarm calls... all this happened when the entire family was out...G man's office manager let the firemen in, she works in the office at the back of the house, and was very surprised to see all the trucks (2) the police (1) at the door. The sirens were disabled at 4am this morning by G man and me so she did not hear the alarm trigger again. We forgot to call the alarm company last night to have us taken offline, so when the circuit recycled the alarm went off at the monitoring company, they called the House did not get an answer then sent the fire department. I am glad we always donate money to the volunteer fireman that's the second time they have had to come in 2 years for a false alarm.


Yesterday morning I spent 1 1/2 hours at the doctors getting gross disgusting nasty wax cleaned from my right ear. For the last few months I have had crunching, bubbling and pressure in that ear. Finally decide to have it looked at before I get on the plane next week. I didn't want to deal with ear pressure pain while flying. Been there and did not like it much.

The PA put peroxide and colace in my ear then used a hugh metal syringe filled with water to flush the ear. The flushing helps get all the nasty wax out. I was so embarrassed. It was really disgusting.

Double G is in London sick. He left last Friday with a bad cold that has only gotten worse. He thinks he has strep but refuses to go to the campus doctor. The cost is 50 pounds. He doesn't want to spend the money. HA! idiot...he spent $400 to upgrade his seat on the plane but won't spend money to see a doctor. MEN!

More later.....

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A few views of Lucy our yellow lab



Sunset at the cottage


Miss Lily, a frequent visitor to my store

G man is the man day 2

This morning with crusty sleepy eyes, hair rumpled, stinky breath and all the nasty man smells that occurr through the hours of the night, G man walked into my area of the bathroom to announce he found his lost wedding ring.


He was looking for his headset which some how always goes missing in the middle of the night. As G man was reaching between the mattress and headboard he not only found the head set and a few dust bunnies of no signifigance, he found his wedding ring.


He must have lost it during the night and not while he was working as originally thought. ( see this link for the story if you are interested) I am glad he found it. He is not only happy but relieved that he doesn't have to get a new one. The original ring has alot more sentiment and meaning. A new ring just would not feel right.


I'll have to think of something special for him to show my appreciation for his loving words yesterday and his exhuberance of happiness this morning.

G man is the man

We spent the weekend at the cottage. By ourselves. Alone. No kids. No neighbors. No friends. No relatives. ( just the dogs)

This morning on the way home G man said to me "this was the best weekend we have had together in years." WOW!!!!!! heart thump, heart thump....jaw drop....teary eyes..... I managed a Yeah before I choked up.

He does that once in awhile. Out of the blue, least expected, from the side sneak approach. Loving romantic words spoken from his heart to mine.