Vegass

How do you deal with a grown man that has had one legit job in his life, has a felony conviction and is a tie to the past your husband enjoys??

My husband and I honeymooned in California 23 years ago. We went sightseeing, ate in fabulous restaurants, and visited family and friends. All the family and friends were, are, my husband's. One particular friend, Vegass, Krieger, Al, Alan, Mys Ter Re Al, he went and goes by many names, is weird. He was different then and he is different now.

I always thought he had dead bodies buried in his basement, he gave me the creeps. My husband and father-in-law love(d) him. Once in awhile my father in law would send Vegass money, go to Cali to visit, or meet Vegass in Vegas. Jobs were not detailed by Mys Ter Re Al, because they were not legal. He sold merchandise from a boiler room, ran numbers, worked for a bookie, gambled, and I am positive worked for a short while in the porn industry. He never filed income tax, absolutely smoked a lot of pot, and never married.

Vegass moved back to my hometown seven years ago to take care of his mother, whom I adored and was one of the nicest women on the planet, she died last year. In all that time Alan never once complained, shirked his responsibility, or thought of putting his mother in a nursing home.

He got a job with another friend of ours as a pizza delivery guy a week after moving back, he still works at the pizza shop. The pizza job is the first and only legitimate job he has worked. Vegass is 55 years old, talks constantly, eats every Saturday and Sunday at my house, usually lunch and dinner, and makes my husband laugh. He has come up a few rungs on the ladder of acceptability because he took great care of his mother. But he drives me crazy.

I have asked my husband to limit the all day and night Saturday and Sunday visits, but I only get "Aahh come on, he's Vegass, one of the tribe, the only link to my dad, I have fun with him."

There are no bodies buried in his basement, (I am 99% sure), he makes my husband laugh and they kibitz about the past in a way only yentas can. ( If you saw and heard them you would know why I call them yentas). I do laugh often with them. Alan is highly intelligent, he remembers dates, details, people, events, and especially numbers. He has a criminal mind, always looking for an angle, the easy way to make a dollar, he dreams of working for a bookie again. His felony conviction is the only thing preventing him from going back to a life of numbers. Vegass did not like jail.

He does not look like a thug or a criminal, no tattoos or gold teeth. Only curly soft brown hair, blue eyes, and a contagious laugh. He is a vegetarian, exercises, is looking for a girlfriend, and lives on a pizza delivery guy's wages. He's kinda likable.

So what do you do with a guy like that???