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Is it wrong for a mom to be angry with her child over money, work and responsibility when the child is 22.?


A blow out of epic proportions occurred yesterday when I was notified that Jenny G had a parking ticket from early Feb....unpaid. The car is registered in my name so the late notice came to me. The fine had doubled. When I called the college parking bureau to find out if they would waive the fee, she got it the first week of the semester, they said no and that a second ticket was given 5 days ago. The fines are at $75. If the fines go unpaid the car can be towed, and I may not be able to register the car or get my license renewed.


Jenny G has been at school for 8 weeks, she will be starting a great job next week. During the lull of unemployment she refused to take a job in a fast food restaurant to make some money. She claims she put applications in at other places, but not the fast food restaurant that was advertising for help. She has no money now. Her reason for not atking the fast food job is she did not want to work there for a few weeks and then quit if she got this other job. She said it's not right to do that to an employer......so keep both jobs....you are a poor college student.

She is a great kid for the most part. But earning her own money has never been a focus. Her attitude of paying for a hamburger on Thursday that she ate Tuesday is the problem. She thinks that future income will pay her debts and expenses from the past. Where that thinking came from I do not know. If G man and I can't pay cash for something we don't buy it until we can. We thought Jenny G man the same view. Boy were we wrong.

So I really let loose on her over the phone....telling her the princess attitude needs to be gone, that paying with future income for current and past debts is stupid, stop being lazy and park in free lots at school and walk and pay her bills on time. I don't feel to bad for telling her how I see the situation. Her response was that I am right, she's sorry, she doesn't know why she does this....blah blah blah blah.....

AAAGGGHHHHHHH..... I get so angry when this stuff happens. It can be avoided with simple accountability for actions taken or not taken.......why oh why oh why has she not learned this.